The lights are on when your 360 is running. How can you reprogram them to turn on only when you want them on? You don’t need to change anything about how they work; you just need to make sure that the lights are turned off whenever you aren't using them.
Have you found out how to turn them off? It seems you need to have custom wiring to do that. My mechanic friend is coming over tomorrow for the installation of the suspension and bumpers from 4 Wheelonline onto my Wrangler. I'll see if he has any idea.